Week 3 Peer Comment #1 Everett Jones

Everett writes, "These chapters are really geared towards myself and friendships that I have.  The example in chapter 5 about the conductor that doesn't know his members of the orchestra personally, but would like to.  The members hold him in such a high esteem that they send messages to him through those in the hierarchy.  He receives all praise for how the orchestra sounds, yet he does not perform and instrument at the concert.  I think it is important to acknowledge all that are part of the larger picture.  Especially if they are all working towards a common goal.  The results tend to have a better outcome.  When people are acknowledge, they tend to have a personal stake in the goal and perform better.

Chapter 6 gave an example of how when we lift away our personal judgments of people, that we may see them in a more positive manner.  I honestly think that each person no matter how evil some may seem to be, possess at least one thing that is positive.  Sometimes focusing on that, brings out a person that we never thought we'd see.

I learned from reading these chapters that I have to set up my life and relationships so that positivity embraces them both.  My daily decisions and choices not only effect myself but those around me.  Focusing on those things that make me happy in life, can hopefully overshadow those obstacles that do not.

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My Comment-

Everett,
I think that is an interesting perspective on relationships. I too think it is extremely important to give thanks/be thanked when in a group working towards a common goal. That is one reason I love staff professional development days, and team building workshops! I think that you have a great focus on trying to hone in on the "happy" little things in life to help you through daily obstacles.  One thing I try to do is to see the flip-side/find one good thing about this "problem" I have or what have you. Sometimes, just being thankful for the little things is a great way to handle a tough day. Great insight! Thanks for sharing.